the uncommon woman

The uncommon woman understands her capacity for pettiness, selfishness, and a sinful bent that leads her away from the Almighty.  But her thoughts don't dwell there.  No, despite what she knows about herself, she entrusts herself fully to the One who will shape her into a thing of magnificence.  
Accepting acceptance means having the courage to face your foibles without diminishing your value.  Accepting acceptance means refusing to let other define you, because God already has.  Accepting acceptance means cherishing the fact that you've been bought with a price, and thus embracing the call to become more and more like Christ every day.

Some morning thoughts from Susie Larson taken from the uncommon woman.

i don't have time to maintain these regrets

I don't have time to maintain these regrets
When I think about the way
He loves us, oh how He loves us.

losing your child's respect...in 3 short and easy steps

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And now, on to the main show...

3 steps to losing your child's respect...all tested and tried by yours truly...guaranteed not to fail.


Step 1. Be Dishonest

As a parent we have so many opportunities here...really the possibilities are endless, but as promised, I will give you some tested and approved techniques.

Ex. A   Say that you will do something, like say, play a board game, and then after the day is gone and you have frittered away time doing things like checking that facebook post for the millionth time, tell your daughter that there isn't time anymore to play her game.

 Ex. B  Tell your child not to do something, like "don't climb on the back of the arm chair", and then watch them continually climb on the back of the arm chair, only disciplining the action when it leads to harm of a person or property.  This of course leads them to think that your rules are only nice guidelines...um, I seem to look at God's rules this way a lot too.  That may be part of the problem here.

Ex. C  Explain to your children how important healthy eating is, and then don't follow through on that yourself...a nice double standard is guaranteed to throw a wrench in the works later if not sooner.  I would like to just move on now before I think too much about this one...

Step 2.  Build a Wall

Building a wall between you and your child is much easier than you may think...you may in fact, already have one there, and just not be aware of it.  But if in doubt, read on...I also have many tips in this area.

Ex. A, B, C & D  Yell, use belittling remarks, use sarcasm, give a well backed up defense of why you are right...

Ex. E & F  Make sure that your child knows that in every fight, that there is a clear winner, and that you are the clear winner, no matter what.

Ex. G  Spend free time on yourself or your spouse entirely, because "you spend all day with your kids anyway."

Step 3.  Never Say You're Sorry

This is the clincher, if you are unable to manage all of the above steps, this one will surely not fail you, in fact, this should probably be step one, because if this step is mastered, then all of the above is really almost unnecessary.  Every time you say you are sorry, you are breaking down that wall that you just built, and you are most likely being an honest person, undoing all previous work.  So by all accounts, this is the most important step to master.  And the one for which I have no examples.  The problem on this step, is that you can always say "I am sorry", no matter what else has passed before, it is the only step that resists time, that can be the undoing of any good work on the above.  You have been adequately warned therefore, to avoid the apology at all costs...foolproof I tell you...foolproof.





the truth about dave

In honor of our 12th Anniversary, I am revealing all of Dave's deepest darkest secrets...all of the stuff he doesn't want you to know...

First of all, I have to tell you honestly, no matter how much fun I have in chiding him, I am married to the best man I know.  I would say, just ask him, but the truth is, he is a very humble guy, and very patient in enduring criticism (he is married to me, so enough said here).  And for all of the good things he has to say about himself, he has more to say about the Giver of those gifts.



Second, He is patient in just about everything.  He has patiently waited the last 12 years while his wife figures out how to develop the skills needed to keep a house in order.  He has patiently waded through unemployment, working under very difficult superiors, and supervising difficult employees.  But where I am ready to throw in the towel after a week, he has waited months for change, and had grace far past where I would have been willing to give it.  And after growing up in a home ruled by boys, he has learned how raise girls by listening patiently, defusing emotions and instructing gently.

Third, he is buff...seriously.  But more than just in physical strength.  He is a very, very strong person...just ask his mom...she frequently tells people how many times she had to read "The Strong-Willed Child" while raising him.  He has enough strength to spend his day hearing from upset customers only to come home and deal with girl drama.  He has the strength to quietly stand up for the right thing each day and lead a team of employees...and then come home and patiently lead a family full of girls who think they know everything.  And yet even greater strength to declare where that strength comes from. 

And in conclusion, I am a very blessed woman...who can even break out a five paragraph theme when needed, again, thanks to my husband (self-declared lover of the five paragraph theme).  Thanking God for 12 years with this guy, and thank you Dave for spending 12 years with me!